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Relationship check-up

A structured look at how your relationship actually feels

The RKINDLE check-up is a set of questions each partner answers separately and privately. It is the starting point for everything else in RKINDLE.
Start your check-inHow your answers are handled

The Relationship Map

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  • Partner A (solid line)
  • Partner B (dashed line)
  • Safety & Security
  • Trust & Honesty
  • Love, Affection & Intimacy
  • Respect & Autonomy
  • Companionship & Shared Life
  • Growth & Support
  • Fairness & Contribution

Illustration of a future feature. It does not contain assessment results or any partner’s answers.

What it covers

The check-up is organised into modules. Each one is versioned, so results can always be read against the exact questions you answered.

  • Safety and suitability

    A short private section about how safe and free you feel in the relationship. Only you see it, and it shapes what RKINDLE offers you.

    Private to you

  • Where things stand

    A baseline picture of how the relationship is going overall, so later change can be measured against something.

    Shared summary

  • Seven areas of relationship need

    How fulfilled each area feels to you, and how much each one matters to you personally.

    Shared summary

  • Communication and conflict

    What tends to happen when a disagreement starts, and what happens afterwards.

    Shared summary

  • Emotional and relational skills

    How easily you notice, manage and express what you are feeling, and how repair usually goes.

    Shared summary

  • Stress and coping

    What pressure you are each carrying from outside the relationship, and how you handle it together.

    Shared summary

  • Commitment and readiness

    How ready each of you feels to work on things right now.

    Shared summary

“Shared summary” means RKINDLE may build a deliberately limited, shared view from your answers if you have agreed to it. Your individual answers are never shown to your partner.

The seven areas

These are RKINDLE’s own framework for organising the check-up, informed by contemporary relationship research. They are not a validated clinical instrument.

  • Safety & Security

    Feeling steady, predictable and able to relax with each other.

  • Trust & Honesty

    Being able to rely on what is said and what is done.

  • Love, Affection & Intimacy

    Warmth, closeness and the ways affection is given and received.

  • Respect & Autonomy

    Being valued as an individual with your own mind and space.

  • Companionship & Shared Life

    Time, interest and the everyday texture of a life built together.

  • Growth & Support

    Encouragement through change, difficulty and ambition.

  • Fairness & Contribution

    How effort, responsibility and care are shared between you.

Start your check-up today

The check-up is open now. Create your own private account, and your partner can join later with their own invitation — or not at all. Either way, your answers stay yours.
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